Is your mindset holding you back? And how to unlock your full potential with Janoah Van Kekem
You look at your current life… Then you look at the ‘future you’… You tell yourself that when this thing happens you will finally be the person you want to be. This is giving away your power, making you dependent on something outside of you. What if that ‘thing’ never happens?
What if your current mindset is the thing keeping you stuck where you are and blocking you from that next level?
Your mindset is the lens through which you view the world. The mindset you currently have is what got you to where you are, so you will need a ‘mindset upgrade’ if you want to upgrade your life. The promotion or partner or more money is not it, these things are the byproduct.
Your mindset is cultivated by a mix of genetics, and parental and societal conditioning fundamentally driven by your need to be loved and accepted. From a young age, we learn how to see the world in order to fit in and for many of us, we lose our true essence, our true power.
I focus on helping people to develop the Mind of a Maverick
The Mind of a Maverick isn’t held back by fear, societal conditioning, or the need to be liked. It challenges old patterns, is free, expansive, and operates in its own unique way. It speaks its own truth.
Imagine beginning as a baby, with a blank canvas (throw in a dash of genetics and potentially some ancestral baggage) but for the most part ready to be imprinted.
From around the age of one you realise that you are separate from your parents and your identity begins to be created.
The next 7 years is your imprint period, think of your mind like a sponge, your main influence being parents, those close to you, and media (TV in the background).
You start to learn how to behave to gain love, acceptance, and attention and be rewarded. Think….‘Be a good girl’ or ‘don’t be angry’. You learn how to show up and fit in.
You see the way your parents respond to things like money, each other, friendships, what is good, bad, how life is.
Now we could go anywhere from here but let’s choose two areas I see most common in people and that I know personally.
Growing up I never saw relationships as overly loving, expansive or exciting. I saw them as something you just did, to tick the box, you settled and sacrificed and just went through the motions or argued.
I had to change my mindset around what relationships could be, to allow the person to even come into my world – Janoah Van Kekem
One of my biggest values is freedom, so with a view of relationships not being overly positive at a deeper level based on this belief I was blocking myself from having a relationship that lasted. It wasn’t the new partner that was going to change my belief as it was deeply rooted, I had to change the belief.
I had to change my mindset around what relationships could be, to allow the person to even come into my world.
Notice the mindset shift had to come first. I first had to step into the mind of a person who was in an expansive, loving, exciting relationship.
Self-Worth and Acceptance
Secondly, let’s look at Self-Worth and Acceptance.
I learned at a young age that being authentically me wasn’t worthy of acceptance. (kids can be cruel huh) This evolved to a view of the world from a place of ‘how do I remain in the inner circle?’ Enter people pleasing, lack of boundaries, and total loss of self and power.
So I needed to be good, happy, fun, and not speak my truth in case it upset others… and boundaries.. The only type I knew of was around a sports field.
So here we have two examples of where your mindset can mess with your life. So how can we free ourselves from these constrictive ways of thinking?
Here are some steps to see where your mindset could be holding you back.
Look at each area of your life. What isn’t satisfied with. It could be relationships, career, or money, and really take some time to reflect on what it is you aren’t satisfied with. What are the stories about the particular area?
Ask yourself if any fears come up around you getting what you want? What could it say about you? (For example, if you struggle with money, are there any views you have around wealthy people or money? What was your parents’ money story? Are rich people arseholes, or is money hard work?)
What would it look like for you to be totally satisfied in that area? Who would you become? How would you think, feel and act?
What is the difference between your answer to question 3 and how you are now?
How can you step into the mindset of BEING the person you want to be before you have all the things you feel you need to allow you to be that person?
What’s stopping you from stepping into that mindset now?
Remember the Maverick Mind is expansive and thinks in growth over fixed, in opportunity over the victim of circumstance.
How can you embody the ‘mindset’ of someone who has what you want?
The mistake we make is waiting for the external thing to change so we can be who we want.
We first need to step into that BEING. This will put us in the aligned energy and mindset and thus more likely for us to actually call it in.
What kind of life do you want to live?
How can you cultivate the Mind of a Maverick?
Step into your truth.
Create your new way of being.
To learn more about Janoah’s work visit www.mindmaverick.com.au